We have all been home now, in varying manners of quarantine for approaching a month. Some of you are home with your families. All day. Every day. In my experience, living with roommates or significant others —sharing space we call ‘home’ presents challenges in regular life. Add in these Corona Virus circumstances of being together ‘always’ in all ways (workplace, play space, rest space, workout space, possibly homeschooling space, sleeping space —what else?) while navigating a cultural story that our lives are in danger, monumental financial concerns, and the uncertainty of when this might end, you might find communication getting problematic.

Terrie LewineApril 10, 2020corona virus, communication, relationships, healthy relationships, nonviolent communicationComment

Corona and Kids. What Are You Saying?

Your children are instantly navigating a new experience. Depending upon their age they don’t have the capacity to understand what’s happening in the same ways you do. For better and for worse. They don’t have the brain development to make meaning of what they are seeing and hearing. They exist more deeply on the feeling level. Not only are they trying to make meaning of the change in their lives, they are deeply impacted by you, the parents, their caregivers. In more ways that you might be thinking about. They are tracking on your every move.

What's the Upside?

You might think this is a blog on finding the upside of the corona virus lockdown that we are experiencing. Well it isn’t.It is the beginning of the story, yes. But it’s not the point. It is about what I always write about. How effective are you at being your own champion for getting your needs met?

Terrie LewineMarch 29, 2020corona virus, communication, therapy, positive thinking, mindfulness Comment

We Got This

This post is written by a friend. Alan Muskat. Alan is well-known as the Mushroom Man in Asheville, NC. He is a forager and takes thousands of people on walks through the woods. Alan and I talk often. We were talking about his business No Taste Like Home a few years back. In this conversation I remember him sharing something to me about understanding nature, the earth and foraging. It was then and remains one of the most profound wake-ups for me —living here in the city.

I Already Said That!

There are a few things I have become aware over many years of teaching and learning NVC and how to relate effectively with other people. One is that we want a script. I think it is one of the appealing things in this work. There is a structure.

Self Care, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 30, 2020blog, communication, needs, nonviolent communication, connectionComment

Maybe?

How do you say maybe? My favorite way to say maybe: I hold off responding to an invitation when I am uncertain. At the moment I am convinced that it is better to not respond until I know one way or the other —meaning have a real answer.

Self Care, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 20, 2020blog, maybe, communicaion, friendship, freedom Comments

A Perfect Fit

It turns out I have been ‘forced’ to wear the wrong size shoe for the majority of my life. I choose to wear a size 9. Because I have a high arch and a wide foot, a 9 felt right-enough, meaning it would go on, although often tight across my foot, and bit too long. Long story short, it turns out an 8-1/2 wide is a perfect fit!

Health and Wellness, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 14, 2020blog, lifestyle, happy life, coachingComment

I am Just Trying to Help You.

I am on a plane returning home from a trip to visit Steve. I was the first to board the plane...first time ever that happened! Comfortably in my seat. 29F. By the window. A man younger than myself likely by 20 or more years comes to the row and let’s me know that he is in the middle seat. He suggested to me that this flight had few passengers and he would likely change his seat. He added, “Doing it so you can be comfortable.”

Don't Talk it Out

Maybe you are like me and when you find yourself in conflict you want to work it out right away?! I have found over the years that there are many times when this is just not the best idea. Why? Because talking it out with the person who you are in conflict with isn’t always the most efficient or even effective strategy to get needs met.

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