Do you find yourself wanting to shift or make a new agreement with someone, yet a sometimes subtle and sometimes booming voice takes over saying, “I said I would so I should.”? Maybe this creates more distance and disappointment than changing your agreements.
Read MoreI did a thing. We turned our clocks forward an hour and I didn’t miss a minute of sleep!
Read MoreA simple, yet robust thank you –only when it is absolutely true, is not a pleasantry, or good manners. It’s deep communication that serves the best of relationships.
Read MoreI don't consider myself a fan of my local teams (sorry). Yet when we are winning, all of a sudden I care. Why? Because my deep needs for belonging and inspiration and joy and celebration are being wildly met.
Read MoreCompromise isn’t necessary for a healthy, satisfying and joyful relationship. In fact I don’t recommend it.
Read MoreTop athletes only want to win a competition when it is fair. They don’t want to cheat. It is less fun to win if the other person is injured, or hampered in some way. They all want to thrive and shine and win only when they are on level playing field. Are you interested in and able to creating relationships that are played out on a level playing field—or do you prefer to get your way no matter what?
Read MoreWhenever we buy something we consider the cost. Maybe you don’t have to actually ask because you can see a price tag, or you already know the cost if it is something you buy often. Yet it remains something you track on when making a purchase.
Read MoreThere are a few things I have become aware over many years of teaching and learning NVC and how to relate effectively with other people. One is that we want a script. I think it is one of the appealing things in this work. There is a structure.
Read MoreLast week I walked out to the pond in the morning to feed the fish as I always do. I immediately noticed the plant that was astray and then looked down to see a fish on the cement, pretty ripped up and obviously dead.
I became a bit frantic, immediately called Steve who wasn’t there, hung up and screamed, “I want to kill the cat!”
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