Gefilter Fish

While the title is meant to amuse, the content is meant to contribute. We humans have filters --think colored glasses, that truly control what it is we see and what we don’t see in life --and our relationships. Typically, these filters are not 100% transparent to us, and we believe that what we see is all there is to see. Unfortunately this isn’t true and impacts are relationships remendously.

inspiration, Family, Communication, Relationships, WomenTerrie LewineApril 8, 2025gefilte fish, filters, communication, sunglasses Comments

NVC Didn't Work

NVC works. Maybe always. And I rarely use the word always. Let’s begin with the reminder that if you are ‘using’ Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to get what you want, isn’t actually NVC. It is something else.

inspiration, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineMarch 31, 2025nvc, nonviolent communicaiton, communication, connection, mindfulness Comments

Love Me Tender

It might seem counter-intuitive to speak up and say what might be heart-breaking for both parties, truthfully if you are able to say it and remain present for another’s pain, this is compassion and care looks like.

inspiration, Communication, Relationships, WomenTerrie LewineMarch 20, 2025love, elvis pressley, nonviolent communication, tenderness, compassion Comments

Assumptions

Trending right now in my circles is the meme: Assume Good Intentions. Having seen it in a few contexts, I wonder when people post or say it, what do they mean. I also wonder if they get just how difficult this can be for many of us. It’s one thing to say it, it’s another thing to actually do it.

inspiration, Family, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineFebruary 27, 2025assumptions, commonications, connection, therapy, nonviolent communicationComment

Loving Conflict

In general, conflict has a bad rap, something to be avoided. For many, literally to be avoided at all costs. Truthfully, the costs might be more than you anticipate or imagine.

inspiration, Health and Wellness, Communication, Relationships, MindfulnessTerrie LewineFebruary 10, 2025conflict, conflict resolution, love, healthy relationshipis, communication Comments

Heartbroken

How many times has this happened in your conversations? You say something and the other person gets upset. Your response is one of two: What did I do or say that caused this distress? (What’s wrong with me?) or; Why are they upset –being too sensitive? (What’s wrong with them?) Looking for someone to blame for the distress. Opting out of fault finding is essential for resolving painful conflict.

inspiration, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 22, 2025communication, neuroplasticity, trauma informed, connection Comments

Looking for Love

Are you interested in finding love? Unless you are currently feeling resigned, I’m guessing you are a yes. Whether with a partner or inside your family relationships, friendships –anywhere really? You can find it almost everywhere.

Communication, inspiration, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 14, 2025love, communication, connection, therapy, needs, relationships, toxic relationships Comments

Who Do You Hate?

Have you noticed as I have that the polarization ‘out there’ is prevalent in ways that I haven’t before experienced. We are losing our interest in and maybe even capacity to talk to one another. I believe that dialogue is our only hope of finding peace these days, if peace is meant to be.