NVC works. Maybe always. And I rarely use the word always. Let’s begin with the reminder that if you are ‘using’ Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to get what you want, isn’t actually NVC. It is something else.
Read MoreIt might seem counter-intuitive to speak up and say what might be heart-breaking for both parties, truthfully if you are able to say it and remain present for another’s pain, this is compassion and care looks like.
Read MoreTrending right now in my circles is the meme: Assume Good Intentions. Having seen it in a few contexts, I wonder when people post or say it, what do they mean. I also wonder if they get just how difficult this can be for many of us. It’s one thing to say it, it’s another thing to actually do it.
Read MoreIn general, conflict has a bad rap, something to be avoided. For many, literally to be avoided at all costs. Truthfully, the costs might be more than you anticipate or imagine.
Read MoreHow many times has this happened in your conversations? You say something and the other person gets upset. Your response is one of two: What did I do or say that caused this distress? (What’s wrong with me?) or; Why are they upset –being too sensitive? (What’s wrong with them?) Looking for someone to blame for the distress. Opting out of fault finding is essential for resolving painful conflict.
Read MoreAre you interested in finding love? Unless you are currently feeling resigned, I’m guessing you are a yes. Whether with a partner or inside your family relationships, friendships –anywhere really? You can find it almost everywhere.
Read MoreHave you noticed as I have that the polarization ‘out there’ is prevalent in ways that I haven’t before experienced. We are losing our interest in and maybe even capacity to talk to one another. I believe that dialogue is our only hope of finding peace these days, if peace is meant to be.
Read MoreThe benefits of going back to basics —every now and then. Marshall teaching his work is such a gift to us.
Read MoreThe struggle can be real, navigating the filters that we have, especially when we are in a conversation with someone else, who has their own filters
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