While the title is meant to amuse, the content is meant to contribute. We humans have filters --think colored glasses, that truly control what it is we see and what we don’t see in life --and our relationships. Typically, these filters are not 100% transparent to us, and we believe that what we see is all there is to see. Unfortunately this isn’t true and impacts are relationships remendously.
Read MoreNVC works. Maybe always. And I rarely use the word always. Let’s begin with the reminder that if you are ‘using’ Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to get what you want, isn’t actually NVC. It is something else.
Read MoreIt might seem counter-intuitive to speak up and say what might be heart-breaking for both parties, truthfully if you are able to say it and remain present for another’s pain, this is compassion and care looks like.
Read MoreTrending right now in my circles is the meme: Assume Good Intentions. Having seen it in a few contexts, I wonder when people post or say it, what do they mean. I also wonder if they get just how difficult this can be for many of us. It’s one thing to say it, it’s another thing to actually do it.
Read MoreHas this happened to you? You clearly shared your point of view or asked for something and you find out later that what you said was completely misunderstood? Read on for all the ways to easily remedy this.
Read MoreIn general, conflict has a bad rap, something to be avoided. For many, literally to be avoided at all costs. Truthfully, the costs might be more than you anticipate or imagine.
Read MoreHow many times has this happened in your conversations? You say something and the other person gets upset. Your response is one of two: What did I do or say that caused this distress? (What’s wrong with me?) or; Why are they upset –being too sensitive? (What’s wrong with them?) Looking for someone to blame for the distress. Opting out of fault finding is essential for resolving painful conflict.
Read MoreAre you interested in finding love? Unless you are currently feeling resigned, I’m guessing you are a yes. Whether with a partner or inside your family relationships, friendships –anywhere really? You can find it almost everywhere.
Read MoreWhen you are communicating with your family, friends, significant others, kids, and co-workers, please consider the subtle differences that make a significant difference in how connecting the conversation(s) will be.
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