NVC Didn't Work

NVC works. Maybe always. And I rarely use the word always. Let’s begin with the reminder that if you are ‘using’ Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to get what you want, isn’t actually NVC. It is something else.

inspiration, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineMarch 31, 2025nvc, nonviolent communicaiton, communication, connection, mindfulness Comments

Assumptions

Trending right now in my circles is the meme: Assume Good Intentions. Having seen it in a few contexts, I wonder when people post or say it, what do they mean. I also wonder if they get just how difficult this can be for many of us. It’s one thing to say it, it’s another thing to actually do it.

inspiration, Family, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineFebruary 27, 2025assumptions, commonications, connection, therapy, nonviolent communicationComment

Heartbroken

How many times has this happened in your conversations? You say something and the other person gets upset. Your response is one of two: What did I do or say that caused this distress? (What’s wrong with me?) or; Why are they upset –being too sensitive? (What’s wrong with them?) Looking for someone to blame for the distress. Opting out of fault finding is essential for resolving painful conflict.

inspiration, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 22, 2025communication, neuroplasticity, trauma informed, connection Comments

Looking for Love

Are you interested in finding love? Unless you are currently feeling resigned, I’m guessing you are a yes. Whether with a partner or inside your family relationships, friendships –anywhere really? You can find it almost everywhere.

Communication, inspiration, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 14, 2025love, communication, connection, therapy, needs, relationships, toxic relationships Comments

Communication Basics: Using Static Language

When you are communicating with your family, friends, significant others, kids, and co-workers, please consider the subtle differences that make a significant difference in how connecting the conversation(s) will be.

Communication, Women, RelationshipsTerrie LewineDecember 30, 2024commuication, relaitonships, couples, connection, language, nonviolent communicationComment

A Pile of Bricks

When is a pile of bricks just a pile of bricks? Always. The meaning we make of the pile of bricks is a perfect example of the importance of using simple observations when hoping for connection in relationships.

Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJune 25, 2024observations, nonviolent communication, relationships, communication, connection, therapy, couples counseling Comments

Connection Lost and Found

While we say we are desperately seeking connection, many times it is lost because of our own behaviors, choices and communication, rather than what another person is doing. This is good news!

Communication, Relationships, MindfulnessTerrie LewineMay 13, 2024connection, communication, relationships, conflict resolution, nvc, difficult conversations Comments

It's Not What They Said, It's How They Said It

Tone of voice can be a way we share our feelings without revealing (or even knowing) what those feelings are. It can be hidden disappointment, anger, hurt coming out (intentionally or not) as a sucker punch to the person we are talking to.

inspiration, Communication, Mindfulness, RelationshipsTerrie LewineFebruary 19, 2024communication, relaitonships, therapy, nonviolent communication, connection, couples therapy, therapy for women, tone of voiceComment

Deep Medicine or Slimy Mess

A lot of the struggle people have when trying to communicate (difficult) things with each other is the meaning they make of what they hear. Discussions are rushed. We rarely take the time to slow down and hear each other.

Communication, Mindfulness, WomenTerrie LewineDecember 11, 2022medicine, healthy relationships, relationships, therapy, marriage, partnership, communication, connection Comment

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