Heartbroken

How many times has this happened in your conversations? You say something and the other person gets upset. Your response is one of two: What did I do or say that caused this distress? (What’s wrong with me?) or; Why are they upset –being too sensitive? (What’s wrong with them?) Looking for someone to blame for the distress. Opting out of fault finding is essential for resolving painful conflict.

inspiration, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 22, 2025communication, neuroplasticity, trauma informed, connectionComment

Looking for Love

Are you interested in finding love? Unless you are currently feeling resigned, I’m guessing you are a yes. Whether with a partner or inside your family relationships, friendships –anywhere really? You can find it almost everywhere.

Who Do You Hate?

Have you noticed as I have that the polarization ‘out there’ is prevalent in ways that I haven’t before experienced. We are losing our interest in and maybe even capacity to talk to one another. I believe that dialogue is our only hope of finding peace these days, if peace is meant to be.

Who Deserves What? And Who Decides?

‘I deserve’ language is more about power over rather than power with. There is some sort of fight in that language. Which creates more distance rather than connection, don’t you think?

CommunicationTerrie LewineNovember 12, 2024deserve, communication, nonviolent communication, festival Comments

Recipes for Meaningful --even Happy Holidays

The holiday season is such a mix. It’s a little bit tricky. Some look forward to it, and some dread it, some are a mix for sure. We have been guided into thinking that’s it’s happy time no matter what, and family is the most important thing. This time of year can have us thinking there is something wrong with us, given how wildly different the holidays are for us.

Back to Basics

The benefits of going back to basics —every now and then. Marshall teaching his work is such a gift to us.

Tell me More!

In your challenging moments, how to you interrupt the automatic stress responses and find the connection that you long for? Here's a how to.

Random Rules

How do you make the choices in your life? When you make agreements –or ask for what you want, are you stuck in a strategy? You might say no to this, and I’m encouraging you to check in and explore more deeply how you are weaving your life choices together.