In your challenging moments, how to you interrupt the automatic stress responses and find the connection that you long for? Here's a how to.
Read MoreTone of voice can be a way we share our feelings without revealing (or even knowing) what those feelings are. It can be hidden disappointment, anger, hurt coming out (intentionally or not) as a sucker punch to the person we are talking to.
Read MoreTriggered? It means you are no longer in control of your response in the present becuase you are wired to your past in some way.
Read MoreA relationship will suffer from too many complaints. I have yet to see or hear about a relationship that suffered from too much genuine appreciation.
Read MoreWhen I discovered Nonviolent Communication (NVC) it was an instant click. Most people I work with are also quite inspired by the Nonviolent Communication process. What makes the difference for people working to shift their relationships? Practice.
Read MoreHave you ever been told to assume good intentions when it comes to relationships and communication? I have. And I find it a bit challenging. However, I have something else that I’d like to suggest.
Read MoreWhat if I (or you) felt confident and excited to share all of who we are, no matter what? What if we truly opted out of good, bad, right, wrong thinking and into a deep sense of care and curiosity about ourselves and each other? I was astounded at how compelling this idea was and still is for me.
Read MoreWhen people tell me they are busy I certainly understand. However sometimes that means code for ‘we aren’t going to do the work’. The funny (not funny) thing is that often the new strategies take up less actual time or the same amount of time than arguing. Take a look at these 5 things you can weave in immediately to shift your relationship.
Read MoreI hear so often from couples, “I love my partner so much. It’s our communication that suffers so.” If only they would put in the time it takes to learn good communication skills, they will find the joy and connection and even something deeper and more enjoyable than they can imagine.
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