A friend of mine recently was using the space downstairs. We met to set up the music situation and he said to me, I don’t want to put my computer on your altar. I understood what he meant, we put the computer (which connected to the speakers) on the bottom shelf and everything worked perfectly. At the time I realized that I had a different perspective.
Read MoreI recorded a podcast with Kate Jaramillo who coaches a variety health practitioners in having wildly successful practices. She asked me to talk about communication around hiring and firing. I made a few notes so here they are. Well…I added a few things.
Read MoreCan something or someone be too much? Or not enough, for that matter? Well, yes. And no.
Read MoreYour children are instantly navigating a new experience. Depending upon their age they don’t have the capacity to understand what’s happening in the same ways you do. For better and for worse. They don’t have the brain development to make meaning of what they are seeing and hearing. They exist more deeply on the feeling level. Not only are they trying to make meaning of the change in their lives, they are deeply impacted by you, the parents, their caregivers. In more ways that you might be thinking about. They are tracking on your every move.
Read MoreThere are a few things I have become aware over many years of teaching and learning NVC and how to relate effectively with other people. One is that we want a script. I think it is one of the appealing things in this work. There is a structure.
Read MoreHow do you say maybe? My favorite way to say maybe: I hold off responding to an invitation when I am uncertain. At the moment I am convinced that it is better to not respond until I know one way or the other —meaning have a real answer.
Read MoreIt turns out I have been ‘forced’ to wear the wrong size shoe for the majority of my life. I choose to wear a size 9. Because I have a high arch and a wide foot, a 9 felt right-enough, meaning it would go on, although often tight across my foot, and bit too long. Long story short, it turns out an 8-1/2 wide is a perfect fit!
Read MoreI am on a plane returning home from a trip to visit Steve. I was the first to board the plane...first time ever that happened! Comfortably in my seat. 29F. By the window. A man younger than myself likely by 20 or more years comes to the row and let’s me know that he is in the middle seat. He suggested to me that this flight had few passengers and he would likely change his seat. He added, “Doing it so you can be comfortable.”
Read MoreMaybe you are like me and when you find yourself in conflict you want to work it out right away?! I have found over the years that there are many times when this is just not the best idea. Why? Because talking it out with the person who you are in conflict with isn’t always the most efficient or even effective strategy to get needs met.
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