One of the most difficult places people find themselves in is the question ‘have I tried enough?’ in my relationship. Should I stay or should I go? For many this question just spins inside their heads over and over, leaving them stuck. Feeling stuck and resigned, resentful and guilty, sad and angry. And hopeless
Read MoreWhen people tell me they are busy I certainly understand. However sometimes that means code for ‘we aren’t going to do the work’. The funny (not funny) thing is that often the new strategies take up less actual time or the same amount of time than arguing. Take a look at these 5 things you can weave in immediately to shift your relationship.
Read MoreSharing power with your children without punishment might seem scary because most of us are quite used to the power over method of negotiation. And the power over in controlling our kids. Yet, we didn’t like it when we were being raised, so we are determined not to say no to our kids. We want them to like us, be our friends. It turns out that either of these choices aren’t the best given your intentions.
Read MoreI hear so often from couples, “I love my partner so much. It’s our communication that suffers so.” If only they would put in the time it takes to learn good communication skills, they will find the joy and connection and even something deeper and more enjoyable than they can imagine.
Read MoreIs asking for (and getting) what you want selfish? Read on to explore the difference between being selfish and self-centered. The second is a stepping stone to creating amazing relationships.
Read MoreEvery year the holidays come around. And every year we make choices about where to go and who to see. Here are a few (3) tips to help you navigate a challenging holiday season.
Read MoreWhen I was young —probably 3 or 4 years old, my mom told me something. She told me that when cows were lying down it meant it was going to rain. Maybe she told me this one or two more times, I’m not sure, yet I believed her completely. Even though there was a good deal of evidence suggesting that this fact wasn’t exactly accurate, I was sure this was true. What do you believe that really isn’t true?
Read MoreIn any kind of partnership, whether it is your significant other, friends, work colleagues or even parent/child relationships, I encourage asking for impact rather than asking permission. You no longer need permission. Perhaps in a healthy culture, you never did.
Read MoreTrust. It’s so important in relationships. Trust is most often thought about in the context of trusting someone else. Yet, trusting another person is only part of the story.
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