Gefilter Fish

While the title is meant to amuse, the content is meant to contribute. We humans have filters --think colored glasses, that truly control what it is we see and what we don’t see in life --and our relationships. Typically, these filters are not 100% transparent to us, and we believe that what we see is all there is to see. Unfortunately this isn’t true and impacts are relationships remendously.

Assumptions

Trending right now in my circles is the meme: Assume Good Intentions. Having seen it in a few contexts, I wonder when people post or say it, what do they mean. I also wonder if they get just how difficult this can be for many of us. It’s one thing to say it, it’s another thing to actually do it.

inspiration, Family, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineFebruary 27, 2025assumptions, commonications, connection, therapy, nonviolent communicationComment

Who Do You Hate?

Have you noticed as I have that the polarization ‘out there’ is prevalent in ways that I haven’t before experienced. We are losing our interest in and maybe even capacity to talk to one another. I believe that dialogue is our only hope of finding peace these days, if peace is meant to be.

Recipes for Meaningful --even Happy Holidays

The holiday season is such a mix. It’s a little bit tricky. Some look forward to it, and some dread it, some are a mix for sure. We have been guided into thinking that’s it’s happy time no matter what, and family is the most important thing. This time of year can have us thinking there is something wrong with us, given how wildly different the holidays are for us.

Find Your People

Read about the value of Finding Your People, in this world and on the other side.

Family, RelationshipsTerrie LewineNovember 1, 2024ritual, harvest, celebrations, ancestry, family, heritage, samhainComment

Random Rules

How do you make the choices in your life? When you make agreements –or ask for what you want, are you stuck in a strategy? You might say no to this, and I’m encouraging you to check in and explore more deeply how you are weaving your life choices together.

Health and Wellness, FamilyTerrie LewineSeptember 20, 2024rules, parenting, communication, nonviolent communication, relationships, couplesComment

Is it Me? Or is it You?

The struggle can be real, navigating the filters that we have, especially when we are in a conversation with someone else, who has their own filters

Can You Do This?

As you know by now, saying yes when we mean no leads to resentment. We blame the other person for asking. This can often lead to avoiding people, leaving them confused or hurt, not understanding why you are choosing more distance.

Communication, FamilyTerrie LewineJuly 23, 2024nonviolent communication, communication, requests, therapy, relationshipsComment

What is Static Language and Why is it a Problem?

Confusing what you think about a situation with what actually happened can lead to distress in your relationships. It happens more often than you might think.

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