One of the most challenging aspects of communication is becoming mindful of the things we say. If it is true that everything a person says and does is an attempt to meet a need, then knowing what our own needs are is critical for feeling satisfied in life and in our relationships. Yet, this kind of self-awareness about where we focus our attention when communicating seems elusive to many of us. In all kinds of situations.
Read MoreSaying thank you when you are grateful for something is important. Saying thank you when you aren’t is lying. Saying thank you to someone who has said or done something that has contributed to our life is more than just polite, it is a useful communication tool.
Read MoreThis post is about expectations, filters, quantum physics and generally creating the life you want. It is inspired by an interview I saw and then a tennis match I watched. It is the succession of these two things that got my attention. I know I refer to Rafa Nadal quite a bit, and this post is not about tennis. They never are.
Read MoreWe say this to kids a bunch, don’t we? I’m not sure it's the best advice. I’m thinking the kids are onto something more accurate.
Read MoreWhen couples are challenged in their relationships and ask for help in finding ways to understand each other better, my coaching will be, “slow it down”. I will generally begin with asking three questions.
Read MoreThere was big drama in the US Open Tennis Championship just a few weeks ago. The number one player in the world forfeited and was ousted from a match. He was out of a tournament he was destined to win. One that was important to him.
Read MoreWe want all want inner peace and loving relationships. This is what I think we long for when we wish for good communication with our friends, partners, parents, kids, co-workers and all the people we navigate life with. Yet sometimes (most times?) we outsource this.
Read MoreWhenever we buy something we consider the cost. Maybe you don’t have to actually ask because you can see a price tag, or you already know the cost if it is something you buy often. Yet it remains something you track on when making a purchase.
Read MoreA friend of mine recently was using the space downstairs. We met to set up the music situation and he said to me, I don’t want to put my computer on your altar. I understood what he meant, we put the computer (which connected to the speakers) on the bottom shelf and everything worked perfectly. At the time I realized that I had a different perspective.
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