Some people just love the holidays. Family gatherings are a delight. The hustle-bustle of the time is energizing. It’s all a love fest! For some, the holidays are not a delight. If you are in the first category, then maybe find something else to read. If you are in the second category, I offer you some tips!
Read MoreFor those of you who deeply want to change the way you communicate with others. For those of you who truly want to transform your relationships, for those of you who want to be responsible for your responses to the world, please consider never letting this phrase slip through your lips into the airwaves again. Even better, delete it from your thinking.
Read MoreSometimes talking an issue through is just not the way to connection. Have you ever talked about something for hours and hours, or days, even weeks? Just creating more and more tension. And sometimes it’s just the best. Here’s what happened between me and Steve this past weekend.
Read MoreI don’t have a chart where I actually keep track, and I would easily guess that this is the question that I am asked most often. What if my partner, friend, mom, person out there in the world, doesn’t learn this NVC. My answer consistently is: It doesn’t matter.
Read MoreInstead of forgiving someone and accepting the implicit agreement that they said or did something wrong —and it is the ‘harmed’ person’s prerogative who gives permission for the other to be whole again, let’s look at this another way. Are you able to see what you are holding something against someone else ~and the pain it is causing you?
Read MoreDo you like to vent? Think it's helpful to just say what you need to? Maybe its helpful. I think not. Read further to tweak your venting so it will be productive. Not just yelling. I call it listing to the Hit Parade.
Read MoreTop athletes only want to win a competition when it is fair. They don’t want to cheat. It is less fun to win if the other person is injured, or hampered in some way. They all want to thrive and shine and win only when they are on level playing field. Are you interested in and able to creating relationships that are played out on a level playing field—or do you prefer to get your way no matter what?
Read MoreThe work of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is often misunderstood. The title of the work itself is confusing to many. However confusing the title is, the value and benefits of the work itself is crystal clear. Here are 5 simple practices you can weave in to your relationships to make them even better.
Read MoreWhen you want more intimacy and connection in your relationship what do you do? Do you ask your partner for more intimacy? How do you ask? Sometimes the people we are partnered with —as unbelievable as it might be to you, actually don’t understand what you mean when you ask for things.
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