Sharing power with your children without punishment might seem scary because most of us are quite used to the power over method of negotiation. And the power over in controlling our kids. Yet, we didn’t like it when we were being raised, so we are determined not to say no to our kids. We want them to like us, be our friends. It turns out that either of these choices aren’t the best given your intentions.
Read MoreI hear so often from couples, “I love my partner so much. It’s our communication that suffers so.” If only they would put in the time it takes to learn good communication skills, they will find the joy and connection and even something deeper and more enjoyable than they can imagine.
Read MoreA lot of the struggle people have when trying to communicate (difficult) things with each other is the meaning they make of what they hear. Discussions are rushed. We rarely take the time to slow down and hear each other.
Read MoreIs asking for (and getting) what you want selfish? Read on to explore the difference between being selfish and self-centered. The second is a stepping stone to creating amazing relationships.
Read MoreEvery year the holidays come around. And every year we make choices about where to go and who to see. Here are a few (3) tips to help you navigate a challenging holiday season.
Read MoreWhen I was young —probably 3 or 4 years old, my mom told me something. She told me that when cows were lying down it meant it was going to rain. Maybe she told me this one or two more times, I’m not sure, yet I believed her completely. Even though there was a good deal of evidence suggesting that this fact wasn’t exactly accurate, I was sure this was true. What do you believe that really isn’t true?
Read MoreIn any kind of partnership, whether it is your significant other, friends, work colleagues or even parent/child relationships, I encourage asking for impact rather than asking permission. You no longer need permission. Perhaps in a healthy culture, you never did.
Read MoreOne of the primary touchstones of compassionate consciousness is that we hold everyone’s needs dear. Meaning in our relationships we are considering solutions or strategies that meet the needs of all involved. It’s a we thing. I have found that this is a place where people get a bit stuck.
Read MoreWhat are you really hoping for when you want to be heard? Is there a difference between being heard, being fully self-expressed and being agreed with?
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