No Shame? All Gain.

What if I (or you) felt confident and excited to share all of who we are, no matter what?  What if we truly opted out of good, bad, right, wrong thinking and into a deep sense of care and curiosity about ourselves and each other?  I was astounded at how compelling this idea was and still is for me.

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

One of the most difficult places people find themselves in is the question ‘have I tried enough?’ in my relationship.  Should I stay or should I go?  For many this question just spins inside their heads over and over, leaving them stuck. Feeling stuck and resigned, resentful and guilty, sad and angry.  And hopeless

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Life is Busy ~ Where Does Your Relationship Fit In?

When people tell me they are busy I certainly understand.  However sometimes that means code for ‘we aren’t going to do the work’.  The funny (not funny) thing is that often the new strategies take up less actual time or the same amount of time than arguing.  Take a look at these 5 things you can weave in immediately to shift your relationship.

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Sharing Power with your Kids

Sharing power with your children without punishment might seem scary because most of us are quite used to the power over method of negotiation.  And the power over in controlling our kids.  Yet, we didn’t like it when we were being raised, so we are determined not to say no to our kids.  We want them to like us, be our friends.  It turns out that either of these choices aren’t the best given your intentions.

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I Love my Partner, It's Our Communication That's the Problem

I hear so often from couples, “I love my partner so much.  It’s our communication that suffers so.” If only they would put in the time it takes to learn good communication skills, they will find the joy and connection and even something deeper and more enjoyable than they can imagine. 

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