Ouch.

Yesterday I was having a coffee (well, I had the carrot salad and fizzy water) with a friend. This is Kim, a kindred spirit who I am inspired by and with and feel grateful when it works out that we can hang out. We were catching up after her travels; she was on a journey with one of her mentors/spiritual teachers in Mexico.

Our conversation was lovely and lively, and was running deep.

And then, I noticed a shift. It was ever so slight, a move in my seat, a twitch in my face, a noticing of a mild ‘unpleasant’.

Take your Heart Back!

Valentine’s Day is approaching.

As a relationship coach, I find it one of the most devastating holidays we ever invented. Does anyone truly —I mean really and truly enjoy, savor and celebrate this day?

Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineFebruary 12, 2019valentines day, love, couplesComment

Tragic attempts at Connection?

Marshall Rosenberg wrote and talked about ‘tragic suicidal ways to get our needs met’. Most couples get into coupledom for the purpose of meaningful connection. Why is this so elusive?

Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineFebruary 6, 2019connection, love, couples, communicationComment

I Can't Hear You

Has this ever happened to you?

You are having an important conversation with your partner (or friend, or co-worker or parent) and it is crystal clear that they (consistently) aren’t understanding what you are saying? You believe they aren’t listening, or they are taking what you say too personally. They get upset when you think they shouldn’t. You are feeling frustrated. You are certain that you are communicating clearly. How could they be misunderstanding you again? Possibly you have tried to have a particular conversation before and run into similar situation. Possibly it happens regularly.

It’s all too annoying.

Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 23, 2019communication, relationships, healthy relationshipsComment

Fireworks.

Sexual chemistry is fun. Our neurological and biochemical response to meeting a mate haven’t evolved much in the past 13,000 years. When you meet a person you like and who likes you, and has the promise of forever, biochemically, your body is telling you that you are safe.

In this day and age, it is often difficult to think in those kinds of practical terms. You just get happy.

New Years Resolutions ~ Turning Intentions into Reality

I’m guessing your inbox, Instagram, blog subscriptions, podcasts are blowing up with ways for you to make your turn your New Years Resolutions in to reality. Just like last year.

Do you wonder why it is such a challenge for most people to make their resolutions last?

I do.

Communication, Relationships, SustainabilityTerrie LewineJanuary 9, 2019new years resolutions, new years, resolutions, intentionsComment

New Year, New You. Why?

Every New Year you think about making resolutions. You are going to be the new, better you?

I don’t know, doesn’t that imply that there is something wrong with the old you? Which is the you, you are right now.

It is so easy to think there is something wrong with us.

inspiration, Self Care, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineDecember 30, 2018healthy relationships, healthy, self-awareness, self-help, resolutionsComment

Naughty or Nice? You Have Another Option

This kind of black and white thinking rules us. We learn it from young. You might get a gift from Santa if you are nice, be good or do what your parents want you to do.

However continuing this practice of doing what someone else wants you to do, or ‘because it is nice’ (or good, or right) will only lead you to relationships filled with confusion and resentment.

Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineDecember 23, 2018communicationComment

Holiday Haste + Holiday Waste ~ Be Mindful of your Relationships During the Holidays.

From Halloween through til New Years, we are bombarded with images of houses to decorate, parties to either perfectly host or joyfully participate in, hundreds of gifts to buy, including gifts to have in your closet so you can give a gift to someone you don’t know well enough to buy a real gift for yet have a gift for them if they happen into your home. Don’t forget all these gifts require wrapping—thank goodness for gift bags and tissue paper. Food shopping, traveling, organizing pet sitting, and the rest of it.

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