The name of this game is how many strategies can we come up with to meet the needs of all involved. The winner of this game is you and all of the folks you have relationships with.
Read MoreThere are some lucky folks who just adore the holiday season. It reminds them of their childhoods filled with laughter and family. Perhaps they have created rituals of their own, or are carrying on family traditions that are filled with meaning. A time of giving and receiving, and being surrounded by loved ones. Then there are the rest of us.
Read MoreWhen I discovered Nonviolent Communication (NVC) it was an instant click. Most people I work with are also quite inspired by the Nonviolent Communication process. What makes the difference for people working to shift their relationships? Practice.
Read MoreWe all have days when things seem to be flowing our way, and the other ones, when it seems like nothing is working out. On these days, particularly the ones where nothing is going your way how do you maintain connection with those around you? Do you let them know what’s happening for you?
Read MoreHave you ever been told to assume good intentions when it comes to relationships and communication? I have. And I find it a bit challenging. However, I have something else that I’d like to suggest.
Read MoreWhat if I (or you) felt confident and excited to share all of who we are, no matter what? What if we truly opted out of good, bad, right, wrong thinking and into a deep sense of care and curiosity about ourselves and each other? I was astounded at how compelling this idea was and still is for me.
Read MoreOne of the most difficult places people find themselves in is the question ‘have I tried enough?’ in my relationship. Should I stay or should I go? For many this question just spins inside their heads over and over, leaving them stuck. Feeling stuck and resigned, resentful and guilty, sad and angry. And hopeless
Read MoreWhen people tell me they are busy I certainly understand. However sometimes that means code for ‘we aren’t going to do the work’. The funny (not funny) thing is that often the new strategies take up less actual time or the same amount of time than arguing. Take a look at these 5 things you can weave in immediately to shift your relationship.
Read MoreSharing power with your children without punishment might seem scary because most of us are quite used to the power over method of negotiation. And the power over in controlling our kids. Yet, we didn’t like it when we were being raised, so we are determined not to say no to our kids. We want them to like us, be our friends. It turns out that either of these choices aren’t the best given your intentions.
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