In Nonviolent Communication classes we spend a whole bunch of time figuring out how to feel our feelings. How do we notice them? How to distinguish feelings from thoughts, games to discern one feeling from another. Practices to enhance our capacity to say what they are. We have sheets and cards and magnets and games. All so we can know what our feelings are.
And now you want to share them.
Read MoreThis past week I became aware of something I do. And it wasn’t the only time. I have done it quite a few times. Something happens and I instantly feel frustrated. First thing was to actually notice that I was upset (and in some weird way, needing a minute to admit it to myself). I think I often don’t want to be upset. So…here it is --this was my process. I wonder if you do this too?
Read MoreHappily Ever After.
I believe this is actually possible.
I think what most people want is: Happily every moment from the second I meet you.
I believe this is rare. Super rare.
Read MoreWe all know what this means. Ab work.
And, if you have a trainer, you might learn quickly that having a strong core is not just ab work. It is strengthening all the muscles, including the abdominals so that we are strong in all our movements. Our entire body benefits and becomes sturdy, durable and protected so it will function optimally throughout the day.
Read MoreI talk with a great deal of people some of whom share with me that they are ‘so ready for a relationship!’ These are words I understand and remember saying myself.
And, I wonder. Are you really ready?
Read MoreI went to dinner last night to celebrate a friend’s birthday. There were 11 of us.
We bought plates for the middle of the table and shared whatever came out. The food was delicious. The conversation lively. The evening was enjoyed by all.
When it came time to pay for the meal...
Read MoreNew Year’s Eve. I find the cultural message of a successful celebration of the New Year encourages us to be with lots of people, and to drink a bit, or maybe even a lot?
I have tried that in a variety of ways.
Read MoreWhen you say to someone “Will you please (fill in the blank)?”, how delighted are you when receive a no in response? Your answer to this question is critical to the success of your relationships. When I say success, I mean how much you enjoy relating with other people.
Read MoreDo you ever find yourself avoiding someone? You don’t go to this event because you know ‘they’ will be there. You plan a quick getaway scheme for family dinners just in case that certain someone says that certain thing. Maybe that difficult someone is a bit closer to you? A roommate, a co-worker, or —do I dare say it— your significant other??
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