Too Good to be True? Maybe it's Not.

If it seems too good to be true, then likely it is. 

I’ve been giving this idea some thought recently.  I’m not so sure I believe it.  Don’t some amazing things happen?  Haven’t you had moments or events in your life that you might describe as a miracle, or just downright too good to be true?  Yet they happened.  So it isn’t true all the time.

Having studied quantum physics formally a bit and informally for a good, long time, there is no such a thing as too good to be true.  We just think it and simply because we think it, it impacts what we are willing/able to manifest and often hope for.

Why do we even say it?  

Is it designed to keep ourselves from feeling pain if something we want doesn’t happen?  In relationships, your friends and relatives might encourage you to not to get your hopes up when you meet someone new who you like.  Does anyone really believe that if you pretend that you aren’t excited about what’s possible that it hurts less if it doesn’t work out like you dreamed?  If you don’t say it out loud somehow it wasn’t true? 

Is it better to ‘keep your emotions’ in check?  Why?  Is it even possible?  Or are you just pretending.  I find it thrilling to be excited about something.  I find it equally enlivening to be fully despondent if something important to me doesn’t pan out.  All the feelings point to needs we are hoping to meet, and to what degree they are, nothing more.  There are no feelings that are positive or negative. 

If you are able to remain connected to the ‘reality’ of whatever is happening, and relate to it moment by moment, your true feelings are required to navigate it effectively.  Most often it is your thoughts that get in the way of true and exquisite life moments, whether ecstatic or devastating.  Thoughts like, I don’t deserve this, I do deserve this, I’ve been through this before and it never works out.  These thoughts are where your suffering lies.  Feeling joy or delight or remorse or disappointment, are a part of the moment to moment life.  They pass quickly.  Just watch a younger child.  Their feelings are out there for all to see.  And they switch in a moment, when something new comes along. 

Please don’t mistake what I am writing as magical thinking.  I have had my own fair share of disappointment(s) in life —large and small.  I acknowledge that things don’t always work out as we plan, or as we dreamed they would.  Yet it doesn’t mean they were too good to be true.  Maybe it means, try again, another time and/or another way.  Is thinking that it’s too good to be true a way to let yourself off the hook for being responsible to manifesting the life you want?

As adults our frontal lobe develops —for better and for worse.  We begin to have thoughts about why something is happening, or that it will only happen again.  Even worse we, believe our thoughts rather than trust our inner world (feelings).  And then we live into them.

When something amazing happens for someone else, do you quietly think, “That will never happen to me.”?

What’s the harm in thinking that something amazing will happen?  Please actually answer this question. Why have we been cautioned against it?   What’s the harm in thinking that it won’t happen?  Please read You Are the Placebo; Making Your Mind Matter, by Dr. Joe Dispenza for an answer to this.  I am reminded of the Mary Oliver quote:  “What it is that you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”.  Are you living your life fully?  Are you out there risking all to make your dreams come true?  Have you forgotten your dreams?  Have you forgotten how to dream?

Do you ever say to yourself, this is too bad to be true?  Why not?  Read about the Negativity Bias here for some ideas about the answer to this.

Perhaps a practice is in order—it is two-part:

1.  Make a list of all the things that have happened in your life that you and/were very happy about.  Would someone else have said it was too good to be true?  Did you think it until it happened? 

2.  Make a list of all the things that you are excited about now.  Or hoped for when you were younger, and maybe still do.  Maybe your hopes have shifted over the years.  If you have all the resources to make anything happen, what would it be?  Are you even able to name this?  The purpose of this practice is to help you uncover the needs that are essential for your happiness.  If you don’t have unlimited resources, what can you do right now that meets those needs —or some of them?

If you want immediate support for the idea of nothing is too good to be true, go outside.  If it is spring, take a look at any flower.  I look at a peony and just marvel at what’s possible.  Head to the beach and watch the ocean —waves.  Aren’t they too good to be true?  Head to the mountains and look at the trees and breathe in the oxygen.  There are so many different kinds of trees.  If you are in the city, look for the life that comes up through the cracks or the birds that still come here.  Head to the supermarket and go to the fruit section.  All that fruit just grows, year after year, magically on trees or bushes or vines.  Take a minute to notice the variety of shapes and textures.  Probably you know many of the flavors of what you see.  Aren’t some of those ‘too good to be true’?  You are of this magical world.   The intricacies of a human being —even just the physiology.  We breathe in and out.  Blood chemistry.  Take a minute to grasp that we can walk and run, on our crazy looking feet.  What happens inside each and every one of us is so complicated, yet it works day in and day out.

This magic is all true.

In fact, nothing is too good to be true.   Grab the life you say you want!!  At very least give it your best shot!!