I hear so often from couples, “I love my partner so much. It’s our communication that suffers so.” If only they would put in the time it takes to learn good communication skills, they will find the joy and connection and even something deeper and more enjoyable than they can imagine.
Read MoreWhile true love is possible, how most people anticipate that this kind of relationship will actually become a reality is unrealistic and rare.
Read MoreHave you been to workshops, or read memes on social media about this? Either we are acting from love or we are acting from fear. I have. Often. Yet, is it really that simple? Kind of yes, and mostly no.
Read MoreLove. Such a wonderful word. I’m guessing you —like most of us wants the experience of love in your life and in your relationships. How do you love someone? By doing other things.
Read MoreHere I go, out on the risky limb of saying out loud: I’m so not in agreement with the current cultural narrative that Valentine’s Day is a good idea.
Read MoreLoving ourselves is so deeply mixed in our history of not receiving love (or being seen and celebrated) for who we actually were. Many of us got messages growing up about how unlovable we were (often unintentionally) in a variety of ways. Add in years and years of trying to get our love needs from outside —wanting others to love us —most often unsuccessfully, the idea of loving ourselves is like gibberish, we don’t have a reference point.
Here’s the funny (not funny) thing.
Read MoreValentine’s Day is approaching.
As a relationship coach, I find it one of the most devastating holidays we ever invented. Does anyone truly —I mean really and truly enjoy, savor and celebrate this day?
Read MoreMarshall Rosenberg wrote and talked about ‘tragic suicidal ways to get our needs met’. Most couples get into coupledom for the purpose of meaningful connection. Why is this so elusive?
Read MoreLove and Compost. What do they have in common?
Everything?
Well, likely not everything. Let’s just see.