self-guided program
Sharing a Complaint
What do you do when you have a complaint? An employee whose work isn’t what you hope it to be. A partner who forgets things more than you would like. A mother-in-law who feeds your children things that you don’t want them eating. Perhaps you have an assistant of one sort or another — a person who helps you clean or a nanny helping you child rear — and while they are great at most things, there is this one (maybe two) thing(s) you want to change.
In all these cases, you find yourself holding back from telling them your thoughts.
Over time, it becomes uncomfortable and resentment builds, even if it is just a little. You cherish the relationship and aren’t willing to risk speaking up. In some cases it causes an actual rift in the relationship. Meaning, in the case of someone you employ, they get fired or you are paying for work that isn’t what you want to be paying for. Or in the case of close family or friends, you see them less — and they don’t know why.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Learn how to say what’s important to you.
This program is designed to offer you specific strategies to work your way into having open and honest relationships, even when you have something you consider a complaint. In this self-guided program we will offer you very clear practices that you can implement right away to help you share your complaints with the people who are important to you. It takes a bit of fortitude to push through the fear or concerns that you might have — and that’s where this program comes in. Use these simple tools to muster up the courage you need to say the things that matter to you. You might find they actually save the relationship!
There are four steps to this program:
The first is to understand what’s important to you about the request you want to make.
The second is to understand how or why you stop yourself from asking or speaking up.
Third, we will address the concern you have about the person you are speaking to: what are you afraid that you are risking by saying what’s true for you?
Once you understand those things, I’ll share a template for determining what to say, when to say it, as well as how to say it — these all make a difference in the outcome. It will become more of a negotiation, developing strategies that serve everyone in the best way possible. Sometimes this is very different from talking about the complaint itself and it can be a very refreshing shift.
When you signup for this self-guided, 2-week program, you will receive:
Two actionable lessons, with worksheets, emailed straight to your inbox.
Direct access to me in a private Facebook community, where you also receive the support and understanding of a small group of people wanting similar understanding and honesty in their relationships.
The chance to go at your own pace. A new lesson is emailed to you once a week for 2 weeks, but feel free to download the materials and do the work whenever you have time, in the privacy of your own home or favorite coffee shop.
